what is life

I have learnt a lot about life through my relationships.I uade to have a fairytale perspective about love since childhood, thanks to my great interst in melodramatic Hindi movies on love stories.I used to believe that your lover has to be a damn good looking guy who would be ready to do anything to make you happy and for whom you would be the only most important thing in the world.But as I grew up and got into relationships, I realised that I was having such a wrong and myopic view of love.
The first thing I got to know is that the quality of your relationships is determined by you and not by your lover. What I mean is that it is how you react to the actions of your lover which is important, rather how your lover acts. If you are a happy person, then even the dullest of persons can have a great relationship with you. So if you think youe lover is a very boring person, just look into ypurself. Why can't you add spice to your relationship? I know it very hard to accept.Even though I have realised it , I find it hard to apply it.
For example, if you think that your lover doesn't care much about you as he keeps on going out more with his friends, than taking you out with him everytime,and consequently oyu end up getting bored , sitting alone. Then why don't you make new friends and hang out with them, so that your lover can get the space and freedom from yor nagging?
This is so important because of the second thing I'v learnt, that is, every person is equal in repect of how he can fair in a relationship. Thus if your current boyfriend is smart and funloving but only caring about his own , so a little selfish.And so break up with him beacuse he never cared for the things that were so important to you. Then your next boyfriend would be Very caring But very workaholic who doesn't have time for fun. Then you would realise the importance of the fun loving nature of your previous boyfriend.
Thus what was important here was you own reaction to the shortcoming you found in your lover. Mostly it is very prudent to try to overcome your negative reaction to any faults you find in your lover, unless it is a very negative one,because leaving one and getting into relationship with the other and then again finding that he is no better than the previous one, can leave you mentally and emotionally exhausted. then you start feeling that your life would just go on without meeting that perfect man you dreamt of.
There are a few other aspects of love, which i'll write about later.